We have a joke/saying in our family that goes like this: a fragile baby who cries a lot is like crystal- they “break” easily. A Rubbermaid baby “bounces back.” Non of this is literal you understand.
I definately prefer the rubbermaid variety. They are pretty content, they are developing normally, they relate easily with others, and-most importantly- mom can leave them with a trusted friend or relative and get some time away.
I grew up with a definate daily routine and schedule and I knew what to expect. That gave me a great sense of security. I have done the same for my children. I don’t think that their security comes from being attatched to me all the time. It comes from expected norms and regularity like regular meals and naps and such. Granted, this is all I have known and it comes easily to me.
Not sure where this is going, but I guess it was prompted by my list of favorite things. One of them was the Babywise book. I know this book has sparked a lot of controversy but don’t discount it if you haven’t even read it. I know of at least 10 children (people who are very close to me) who have slept through the night by 3 months and who are happy, health, secure kids.
Just a thought.
I have never heard of this book, but all of our kids slept through the night (other than an occasional feeding) very early…probably less than three months. We started immediately with a routine with each of them. Hot bath, feeding and then to bed…same thing EVERY night. The routine varies a bit as they get older (four years old), but I do think they need the structure.
Comment by morethananelectrician — October 24, 2008 @ 2:56 pm
That’s mostly what it’s about, but i have discovered that women get real weird sometimes about nursing and they have VERY STRONG opinions about to schedule or notto schedule. It just makes sense to me and makes me a better mom cause I am rested.
Comment by bekabeka — October 25, 2008 @ 1:33 am
My wife nursed our first two for 13 and 18 months. She never woke them up “to” feed them though. They developed a “natural schedule” between the two of them. I had absolutely nothing to do with the process.
Comment by morethananelectrician — October 25, 2008 @ 11:32 pm